• Derived from Latin intimus, which means inner
• Establishing closeness with another person
• Develops from self-disclosure (sharing thoughts and feelings)
• Express openness to one another
• Conflict between desire and independence
• Forming relationships based on sexual intimacy without emotional intimacy
• Erikson and hall = genital relationship
• This leads to total isolation
Love
• Described as special form of emotional interdependence and vulnerability
• Characterized by deep affection for another person
• Racing hears/sweaty palms/flushed cheeks
• Various biochemicals associated with love
• Oxytocin is the love hormone released when people snuggle or bond
• Triangular theory of love = consists of passion, intimacy, and commitment
Passion: this is
characterized by intense
emotions that one feels
towards another person.
Characterized by
infatuation
TTOF
intimacy:
Commitment:
reciprocal trust +
maintain the love
honest exchange of
relationship
feelings
Types of Love
1. Liking: includes intimacy while passion and commitment are absent
2. Infatuation: based on passion but intimacy and commitment absent
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, 3. empty love: based on commitment but lacks P+I
4. Romantic love: includes P+I but lacks commitment
5. Fatuous love: based on P+I but lacks intimacy
6. Companionate love: characterized by I+C but lacks passion
7. Consummate love: characterized by passion, intimacy, and commitment
Theories of who we fall in love with
The equity theory
• Believe what they are getting out of the relationship is proportional to their input
• Based mutual exchange
• Ignores feelings in relationship
The assortative mating theory
• Choosing partner based on similar characteristics
• Intelligence/religion
• Personality similarity influences marital happiness because it entails regular
interaction and requires coordination
• Men endorse physical attractiveness in partners, while women value earning
potential
Attachment
• John Bowlby to investigate the effects on the development of children orphaned
during WW11
• CHILDREN NEED WARM AND CONTINOUS RELATIONSHIP
• Mary Ainsworth: identified 3 types of attachment
• Secure/ambivalent/avoidant
• Adults with secure internal working model = good about themselves + relationships
• Preoccupied internal working model = feel unlovable and fearful of abandonment
• Dismissing internal working model = positive view of self but DON’T trust others
• Fearful internal working model = negative view and fear of closeness
Securely attached adults are:
- Supportive of partners
- Practice safe sex
- Less upset when experiencing stress
- Compromise in conflict
- Good self-esteem
- Not abusive
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