FAML 160 Midterm Exam
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What are the warning signs that someone may have a higher potential to be an abuser?
- Answer- -abuses you emotionally by such things as insults, putting you down, or acting
perturbed when you take the initiative.
-tries to control such things as whom you befriend, how you dress, or how you conduct
other manners in your life.
-speaks in a derogatory way or tells "put-down" jokes about those of the opposite sex.
-expresses groundless jealousy.
-abuses alcohol or uses other drugs or tries to get you to be a user against your wishes.
-pressures you to have sex regardless of whether you want to.
-acts in a physically aggressive way toward you or others in order to get his or her way.
-gets excessively angry when frustrated by something.
-considers you as inferior or subservient in some way.
-has extreme mood shifts.
-is sufficiently volatile that you tend to change what you do or say in order to avoid your
partner's angry reaction.
What role does self-disclosure play in the intimacy cycle? - Answer- You are becoming
closer with that person through an honest revealing of oneself (and reciprocation).
Who cheats more-men or women? - Answer- It is the same chance.
Who talks about themselves more-men or women? - Answer- Women
Know Rusbult's (1987) four types of responses to a deteriorating relationship. - Answer-
Exit (active and destructive), voice (active and constructive), loyalty (passive and
constructive), and neglect (passive and destructive).
What do men and women do to deal with a break-up? - Answer- Women tend to confide
in a close friend; men tend to quickly start dating others.
Who falls in love more often-men or women? What about love at first sight? - Answer-
Men; men.
, What does love mean? - Answer- It can mean different things to different people.
Storge(parents+children)
Philia(friends)
Eros(men+women)
Agape(independent of one's feelings for another)
Know the terms: storge, philia, eros, agape, homogamy, heterogamy, hypergamy,
constraint commitment ? - Answer- Storge: The kind of love that exists between parents
and their children.
Philia: The kind of love that exists between friends.
Eros: Sexual love.
Agape: Love that is action on the behalf of someone's well-being, independently of
one's feelings for the other person.
Homogamy: Marriage between people who are similar in social and demographic
characteristics.
Heterogamy: Marriage between people who are dissimilar in social and demographic
characteristics.
Constraint commitment:
How does arousal influence attraction? - Answer- We misattribute the exciting feeling of
arousal with physical attraction. (ex. coming off a rollercoaster)
Know Sternberg's Triangle - Answer- Intimacy+Passion+Commitment=Consummate
Love
Intimacy+Passion=Romantic Love
Intimacy+Commitment=Companionate Love
Passion+Commitment=Fatuous Love
Know John Alan Lee's love styles. - Answer- Erotic lover: focuses on the physical and
sexual aspects of the relationship.
Ludic lover: views love as a pleasant pastime, not something to get deeply involved.
Have little or no commitment
Storgic lover: have a quiet affection for the other. Develops slowly but stable.
Manic lover: combines eros and ludus. Intensely preoccupied with partner, intense
jealousy, alternates between ecstasy and despair. Swinging feelings and fear of loss.
Pragmatic lover: combination of ludus and storge. Takes careful stock of the other,
looks for partner with certain set of characteristics. Can be stable and growing love
Agapic lover: acts on the well-being of the other without demanding or expecting
benefits in return. Other-focused, patient, kind.
Which type of infidelity is more stressful to women? What about men? - Answer-
Emotional; sexual.
Know the results of jealousy, who experiences it more, is it always bad for
relationships? - Answer- Anxious lover-resist expressing anger.
Avoidant-express anger and blame person they feel intruded relationship.
Questions and Answers All
Correct
What are the warning signs that someone may have a higher potential to be an abuser?
- Answer- -abuses you emotionally by such things as insults, putting you down, or acting
perturbed when you take the initiative.
-tries to control such things as whom you befriend, how you dress, or how you conduct
other manners in your life.
-speaks in a derogatory way or tells "put-down" jokes about those of the opposite sex.
-expresses groundless jealousy.
-abuses alcohol or uses other drugs or tries to get you to be a user against your wishes.
-pressures you to have sex regardless of whether you want to.
-acts in a physically aggressive way toward you or others in order to get his or her way.
-gets excessively angry when frustrated by something.
-considers you as inferior or subservient in some way.
-has extreme mood shifts.
-is sufficiently volatile that you tend to change what you do or say in order to avoid your
partner's angry reaction.
What role does self-disclosure play in the intimacy cycle? - Answer- You are becoming
closer with that person through an honest revealing of oneself (and reciprocation).
Who cheats more-men or women? - Answer- It is the same chance.
Who talks about themselves more-men or women? - Answer- Women
Know Rusbult's (1987) four types of responses to a deteriorating relationship. - Answer-
Exit (active and destructive), voice (active and constructive), loyalty (passive and
constructive), and neglect (passive and destructive).
What do men and women do to deal with a break-up? - Answer- Women tend to confide
in a close friend; men tend to quickly start dating others.
Who falls in love more often-men or women? What about love at first sight? - Answer-
Men; men.
, What does love mean? - Answer- It can mean different things to different people.
Storge(parents+children)
Philia(friends)
Eros(men+women)
Agape(independent of one's feelings for another)
Know the terms: storge, philia, eros, agape, homogamy, heterogamy, hypergamy,
constraint commitment ? - Answer- Storge: The kind of love that exists between parents
and their children.
Philia: The kind of love that exists between friends.
Eros: Sexual love.
Agape: Love that is action on the behalf of someone's well-being, independently of
one's feelings for the other person.
Homogamy: Marriage between people who are similar in social and demographic
characteristics.
Heterogamy: Marriage between people who are dissimilar in social and demographic
characteristics.
Constraint commitment:
How does arousal influence attraction? - Answer- We misattribute the exciting feeling of
arousal with physical attraction. (ex. coming off a rollercoaster)
Know Sternberg's Triangle - Answer- Intimacy+Passion+Commitment=Consummate
Love
Intimacy+Passion=Romantic Love
Intimacy+Commitment=Companionate Love
Passion+Commitment=Fatuous Love
Know John Alan Lee's love styles. - Answer- Erotic lover: focuses on the physical and
sexual aspects of the relationship.
Ludic lover: views love as a pleasant pastime, not something to get deeply involved.
Have little or no commitment
Storgic lover: have a quiet affection for the other. Develops slowly but stable.
Manic lover: combines eros and ludus. Intensely preoccupied with partner, intense
jealousy, alternates between ecstasy and despair. Swinging feelings and fear of loss.
Pragmatic lover: combination of ludus and storge. Takes careful stock of the other,
looks for partner with certain set of characteristics. Can be stable and growing love
Agapic lover: acts on the well-being of the other without demanding or expecting
benefits in return. Other-focused, patient, kind.
Which type of infidelity is more stressful to women? What about men? - Answer-
Emotional; sexual.
Know the results of jealousy, who experiences it more, is it always bad for
relationships? - Answer- Anxious lover-resist expressing anger.
Avoidant-express anger and blame person they feel intruded relationship.
