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MOCK EXAM 01 ANSWERSDuration : 2 Hours 60 Marks
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FIRST: MS A PETTY
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This paper consists of three sections:
Section A – twenty multiple-choice questions based on the included case study.
Section B – ten True or False questions.
Section C – thirty multiple-choice questions.
Please note that all questions are compulsory. All sixty questions are to be answered
on a mark-reading sheet (60 marks).
,SECTION A: CASE STUDY AND MULTIPLE CHOICE QUESTIONS
Carefully read the case study presented and answer the twenty questions that follow
and that are based on the case of Zafar and Isra. Select the most appropriate answers
from the options provided.
CASE STUDY OF ZAFAR AND ISRA
Zafar (41 years of age) and Isra (35 years of age) came to me to seek divorce counselling.
After the exchange of names and a brief social dialogue about the couple’s trip to the office, I
provided them with a general explanation of the counselling process. Thereafter, they were
invited to share their expectations of counselling and their personal perspectives of why they
needed this professional help. They shared that they had experienced the most unpleasant
and miserable last three to four years of marriage. The conflict between them was so intense,
and now, at last, they were in agreement about something, and that was that they both did not
want to affect their children more than they already had by their unpleasant and constant
fighting. The couple has two children, a son Ali, who was thirteen years of age and their
daughter, Saira, who was eleven years of age. They were considering separating, because
according to them, they had already tried everything they could to save their marriage but had
failed to quell the anger and hurt that they were inflicting on one another. According to their
perceptions, theirs was a sixteen-year marriage that could not be saved.
During the introductions they shared that they had been motivated to seek guidance after
taking their daughter, Saira, to the doctor for treatment for her recurring asthma attacks. The
family doctor, who was also a friend, spoke to Isra about getting help for their marriage,
drawing their attention to the fact that Saira’s asthma had worsened, with her asthma attacks
becoming more frequent. Whilst the doctor did not consider himself as an expert in
psychosomatic illnesses, he was honest about his thoughts, and these were that Saira’s
asthma attacks could be related to what was happening at home. It was at that point that they
agreed to get some guidance as to how they should proceed with their relationship. They
considered themselves good parents and were upset that they had not stopped to think about
the way their relationship was impacting on those they loved the most, their two children.
Zafar described himself as being a very religious person who never wanted to disappoint his
parents, and therefore divorce was the very last option for him. However, he conceded that
he and Isra had become such different people over the past four years that they were no
longer able to fulfil one another’s needs. Isra mentioned that by her entering the workforce to
start her career she realised that they both were striving for very different things in life and that
was when the fighting started. They both agreed that the first dozen years of their marriage
had mostly been beautiful and memorable but things deteriorated thereafter.
Instead of being stuck in an unpleasant marriage for the rest of their lives and displaying
dysfunctional marriage behaviour in front of their children the only options for them was to
divorce and try to find happiness living apart. They hoped that counselling would give them
the direction they needed. Isra was very honest and said that she had wanted a divorce much
earlier but Zafar was not willing to consider it. She was worried about how a divorce would
affect him because although she no longer loved him as a husband she still cared for him and
wanted to make sure that he would be able to adjust. He was a very proud person and had
,never given up on anything in his life. At this point Zafar shared that divorce was going to be
hard. No one in his family had ever divorced and he hated the thought of being the first. He
acknowledged his fears that others would see him as a failure. He started to cry at this point,
explaining that it had been really hard to hear Isra say that she no longer loved him. How was
it that he was such a loser? His wife was happy to walk away for their marriage. Surely this
implied that he had failed badly at being a husband. What was so bad about him as a person
that she was finding it so easy to walk away from their sixteen years of marriage?
I allowed him time to compose himself and held Isra back from trying to find things to say just
to make him feel better. I noted that he was feeling so incredibly hurt by the realization that
over time Isra had fallen out of love with him and it was hard for him to see what he had done
to deserve this. He agreed, saying that it would have been easier to accept had he beaten her
on occasions, or got drunk, or wasted the family’s money, or even had an affair, because then
her decision would be understandable. Now, as things stood, she was leaving the marriage,
in his mind without a valid reason, and that made him feel as though he was a bad person. I
brought one of his beliefs to the fore and that was that the cause of a divorce was always
linked to one party, the perpetrator of unkind acts. He believed that someone was to blame
and because Isra wanted the divorce he was the one who should be blamed. He affirmed this
by nodding, but this only set him off crying again.
The couple provided a lengthy background about the history of the marriage. Isra had grown
up in a family where there was no father. Her father had died when she was very young.
Although her mother was Muslim, practicing the faith was never the core of their family life.
Her mother was too busy trying to raise her and make ends meet. She was an average student
and there was no thought given to her studying after her matric. She and Zafar were introduced
to one another by Zafar’s second cousin. There was an instant attraction and after a short
courtship they married. It was very easy to please Isra as she had been accustomed to having
so little. Zafar’s parents were dominant in their lives as they built a cottage onto their home so
that Zafar and Isra could start a family. Isra had less and less contact with her mother who
moved to another city soon after the couple married. Zafar guided Isra into being a good
Muslim wife.
After reliving the things that they did together, Isra responded with tears in her eyes. She
emphasised, that in all honesty, Zafar was not to blame. She felt very guilty about the way
things were between them at that point because he was a truly honourable man who deserved
a wife who adored him. He had always preformed his duties as a husband and father according
to the things they had agreed upon prior to their marriage. It was she that had changed. Both
were tearful at this point.
When they were a little more composed I decided to share Hauck’s theory of love. The theory
proposes that it is not the person we love but the extent to which they fulfil or enable us to fulfil
our needs. People change and are never constant because of their forever changing life
experiences. This suggests that the extent to which a partner is able to fulfil his or her partner’s
needs also changes. The emotional, spiritual, social, intellectual and physical changes that a
person undergoes seldom occur with synchronicity in intimate relationships. As a result,
feelings of love will never be constant - love grows or wanes, based on the extent to which the
couple is able to satisfy one another’s needs.
,This created a space for me to get them to talk about what factors had altered their relationship
and how things had differed from the way they had planned them.
Isra mentioned that the problems started when she decided to go out to work. To explain, she
provided a little history. They married when she was very young, which she explained is not
uncommon in Muslim families. Even though her mother-in-law did not see the point of her
studying towards a degree, Zafar supported her wishes. Her mother and father-in-law were
always happy to help with the children and thus gave her time to devote to her studies. To her
surprise she discovered that she was a good student. At first the intention was just to study to
prove to herself that she was capable, but then, as she qualified, she was desperate to go out
and work. This was when the arguing began. On reflection, she shared that it was less about
what Zafar expected of her and more about what his parents had to say about her decision to
go out to work.
It was not uncommon for Isra to hear Zafar’s mother complaining to him about her. Amongst
the complaints was the risk he had created by allowing her to study because this had led Isra
to undermine his being “in charge” of the family. When Isra secured a position as a financial
advisor, her salary was more than his and this spurred Zafar’s mother on to challenge him
even further about the dangers of Isra having too much independence. There was an
interesting pattern that emerged. The more Zafar’s mother nagged him, the more he
challenged Isra. The more that Zafar challenged Isra, the more defiant she became. She did
things that she knew would upset him and his family. She would invite people into the house
whom she knew he disapproved of, because according to his frame of reference, they did not
honour their religion. She made a point of leaving the house without asking him for his
permission or informing him of where she was going.
Whilst she and Zafar were arguing about these issues at home, her career was taking off and
demanding more and more of her time. She often sought refuge at work and spent long hours
there, leaving Zafar and his mother to cook and perform the household chores. On returning
home she would fail to thank him for his efforts and delayed going to bed until he had fallen
asleep. The only time they communicated was when fighting.
The arguments escalated when Zafar began challenging Isra about turning her back on her
religion, forgetting how to pray and often failing to fast. This hurt Zafar more than anything else
she had done. She retaliated by accusing him of always following his mother’s instructions
and basing all decisions on her guidance. Zafar turned to me and said, “What am I to do? As
a Muslim man I have a duty to respect my mother and the teachings of Allah! What is so wrong
with that?!” Isra shared that there were many things that suddenly became an issue, such as
her not obeying her obligation to show his parents respect or carry out their wishes; the way
she dressed because she did not cover up properly which “caused men to look at her in a way
that was not appropriate”; not making herself available to take care of their children. At this
point Isra burst out saying, “You know Zafar, all this is not about you, or your mother. It’s about
me and the fact that my world view has changed. I want so much more now. I want to be out
there and see just how far I can go and grow as an individual. I have a religious foundation
thanks to you but sadly I do not interpret these things in the same way as you do. “
To avoid Zafar and Isra continuing with their complaints about the past three or four years I
chose to summarise what had transpired, removing the blame element from my summary and
,highlighting the good intentions behind the positions that each of them had taken during the
turbulent times. Zafar, who continued to love Isra, had wanted to preserve their marriage by
enforcing the principles by which he had chosen to live his life, the religious teachings that he
had grown up with. Isra had appreciated the opportunity to study and become her own person
in the work place and this had forced her to clarify her values. She had found that her new
values were inconsistent with Zafar’s and his parents’. They had reached a turning point in
their relationship as religion that had served as a corner stone of their relationship in the past
was now tearing them apart.
I allowed a period of silence as I could see that as I was talking, they were both agreeing that
this was an accurate summary of where they were at in their relationship. Zafar was the first
to break the silence. He shared, “As much as I love Isra, I must admit that I cannot see our
relationship working unless she genuinely embraces our religion to the point where she
performs her religious duties, not to please me, or keep the peace in the home, but because
she regards them as an essential part of her being and because they give her life meaning
and purpose.” She replied, “Well, that is just it. I can’t and I haven’t been able to for a long
time.”
Another lengthy silence followed before Isra shared that she truly admired Zafar for his strong
religious convictions. She longed to feel the same way as he did about the Islamic faith and
for many years had tried to live up to them but her efforts were in vain. Somewhere she longed
for something different, something less restricting and something that allowed her to
experience greater personal freedom to explore a different spiritual path. Her inability to share
his faith meant that they differed greatly in the decisions they took, in the things they wanted
for themselves and in the way they approached their lives. And yet she shared that she wanted
to support Zafar by instilling his religious values and practices in their children.
To help them move from this insight towards taking some action I shifted their thoughts away
from their present relationship by getting them to imagine a future where this was all behind
them. Each person was invited to share their vision. Isra was the first to respond. She shared
that she imagined that she and Zafar were living in separate homes that were close enough
for their children to spend time with each of them. One of the strengths in their relationship
was that they both loved their children. Whilst her work was at times demanding, she needed
to know that Zafar and his family would continue to be there for the children. That would be so
reassuring. She wanted to see her and Zafar scheduling regular meetings to discuss issues
pertaining to the children and being able to talk to one another civilly and support one another
as co-parents of the children. Naturally, when she and Zafar had planned to have children,
she had undertaken to ensure that they would be raised in the Muslim faith and she felt
strongly motivated to see that promise through. Therefore, she would continue to fulfil her duty
to teach them their obligations toward their parents, grandparents and their faith. She imagined
being able to demonstrate the respect that she truly felt for Zafar instead of the defensive
retorts that had become so characteristic of their current interactions. She hoped to be more
relaxed and at peace and be able to use the “space” to discover herself more fully and find
her “way” again. The future would mean that Zafar would no longer be caught between her
and his mother and she hoped that this would bring him much needed relief. She imagined
not feeling guilty about accepting work opportunities that were offered to her. Her childhood
had robbed her of opportunities and Zafar had married her and changed the quality of her life
only for the better. However, she had never had the time or space to discover who she was
,and what she really needed to do to become the person she was born to be. She had started
to feel that her life was mundane and she wanted to grow and experience the excitement of
life now that her children were older and entering the teenage phase. She was excited about
that prospect and looked forward to the day that Zafar would forgive her.
There was much more hesitation on Zafar’s part before he started speaking, “Well obviously,
the best imaginary scenario for me, would be that I would wake up and find that this had just
been a dreadful nightmare. But as you can see, this is not going to happen. After today, I have
to accept that there have been major shifts in our relationship, just like an earth quake changes
things and things can never go back to what they were before the earthquake struck ... so I
am still in shock. I am choked up by the dust and feel as though I have lost my loved ones
under the debris. I can’t imagine waking up and looking forward to a new day or going about
my duties as a single parent”.
In order to get Zafar to start setting goals for the future I was gently persistent. I responded by
saying, “I sense that the earthquake has shattered your world as you knew it. Despite your
intense pain you have to survive to help your other loved ones crawl out from the debris. What
would you need to do to reassure those who care about you that you are picking up the pieces
of your life and getting back your power?”
Biting back the tears Zafar shared that he would be picking up his game at work again, he
would be making more of an effort to do things with the children; he would be resuming his
responsibilities in the neighbourhood watch and spending time with his brother. He turned to
Isra and shared that he understood what she wanted and did not blame her for that.
We acknowledged that a lot of work was necessary to help this couple reclaim their status of
wellbeing and would have to set about planning the next stage of their reconstructed family
life. This would require a few more sessions.
As I did not want them to leave the office feeling so low I ended the session with one last
exercise. They were asked to each share a memory of a shared incident that had really made
them laugh. Zafar shared the time that Isra had gone to work by car, but at home time had
forgotten that she had taken her car and then taken the bus home. A neighbour had enquired
about why she was on the bus and Isra was too embarrassed to admit that she had been so
forgetful, so she pretended that the lady was mistaken and once home, waited for Zafar to
drive her back to work to collect her car. There were giggles from Isra who shared that Zafar
had found a new body lotion in the cupboard and dutifully put it on daily for a week complaining
that the lotion would not soak into the skin and then they discovered that it was not body lotion
but body wash.
The laughter eased the intensity of the session a little and we started making plans for the
next session.
, Read the following twenty (20) questions and select the most appropriate answers from
the options provided. Enter your answers on the mark reading sheet provided.
The topics that were covered as detailed in paragraphs 1 and 2 are indicative that the helper
is steering the couple through the ... phase of the counselling process.
joining
assessment
history taking
intervention
The intervention that is designed to assist couples to deal with the losses of a relationship,
losses such as: dreams, love, a shared home, companionship, status of being married,
children and assets is ...
marriage enrichment.
couples counselling.
divorce counselling.
divorce mediation.
The theory of love that the helper shared with Zafar and Isra is based on the ... approach.
psychoanalytical
person centred
cognitive behavioural
integrated
Hauck’s theory of love proposes that couples should realistically aim to achieve a relationship
where both partners ...
resolve their areas of their conflict.
are just reasonably content.
fulfill one another’s needs.
are completely honest with one another.
In this case, given the type of counselling that this couple requires, one expects the helper to
explain the limitations of the professional value of ...
respect
individualization
confidentiality
self-determination
Paul Bohannan’s model details the stations that Zafar and Isra have to complete in order free
themselves of the emotions that will ruin their progress as they separate and this model is
known to have ... stations.
three
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